I was embarrassed to tell anyone this until today. Crazy! Right? Though we live in a progressive society, it sometimes feel as if the “non-judgment” rule is only applicable to certain lifestyles. And let’s face it, marrying young and soon is not one of them.
I was 22 years old, a very-recent college graduate, focused, and had never had a “real” boyfriend when I met my soon-to-be husband. And I was not interested in a romantic relationship and especially not marriage — at least I thought. I brushed off every idea of marriage when we first met. I was determined to shut him down, as I had every guy in the past. I came up with nearly every excuse as to why the thought of “courtship” was just not God’s will for our lives.
But Joshua was different. I know it sounds cliché, but it’s the truth. Most guys would confess their love (with no or bare minimum works/consistency) and then have the nerve to expect some loving in return… I had heard too many stories from girlfriends, watched too many movies, and read too many posts about those type of men to just settle.
Settle? Not me!
I refused to lower my standards for any guy — even if that meant me embracing singleness and abstinence for the rest of my life. I grew to like me for me and I was okay with it being just me and JESUS. However, God had other plans for my life.
He allowed me to meet Joshua, in the most unusual way (will blog about later), just to show me how things can change in less than a year.
Love was not something that I was seeking, but it found me. I was content with my life. But God! He knew that my life could use someone like Joshua to push me towards my goals, encourage me in my weakest moments, inspire me to live a better life, and to increase my faith in Him.
“Moving too fast” and “barely knowing him” has helped me evolve into a more compassionate listener, faith walker, and risk-taker. I’m glad that I took that chance on him and I’m glad that God interrupted my plans for my life with His plans.
Last June, I didn’t know what God was up to and I did not need to know. That was not my job. My job was to trust God — the author of love, the founder of time, and the creator of all mankind.
And here I am, writing this blogpost 14 months later (a dream of mine) — happily married, in a state that I once dreamed of, and living out my faith daily with the love of my life.
I don’t know what lies ahead, but I know the one who holds the future.
As he has written and is writing my life story; he is doing the same for you, my dear sister.
Remember: Timing is not determined by man but God.
“To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven.” -Ecclesiastes 3:1