“It’s my body and I can do what I want with it.”
I can’t count the number of times I have heard or read this statement — especially on social media. There are various organizations and movements that promote this belief. They tell us, especially women, that our bodies are our own and we can do what we please — even if it causes someone else to stumble and does not glorify God.
Nakedness is regularly promoted in the name of self-love and body positivity. The purpose of it, in their eyes, is to promote one’s confidence — to believe that you are perfect just the way you are — at least body wise.
To the average person, these are all good things and should be glorified in a progressive society. Right?
I can hear someone saying, “This is a time for women to rise up. To be free. To not feel ashamed or suppressed. This is what we have worked so hard for — women empowerment! Hail! Hail!”
But, I’d have to disagree.
As a woman that has been adopted into the family of Christ, I am called to be set apart. To glorify God in all things — including what I wear and post on social media.
“But it’s my body, why does it concern you?!”
Sis, if we are daughters of the King, we are to be clothed like ones. Labeling ourselves as a “Woman of God” is good and all, but we have a duty to represent Him in the best way possible. We all want to look good and receive compliments, I get it. But at what cost are you willing to do so? Are likes and approval on Instagram more valuable to you than God?
1. Our body does NOT belong to us contrary to popular belief. Christ bought us with a price and we are to show our appreciation by glorifying God in our bodies and in our spirit, which are God’s. [Please read 1 Corinthians 6:20]
“It’s not my problem that he/she can’t control his/her lust… They need to turn their heads. I can wear what I want to wear.”
Sis, I couldn’t agree more with you. It is not our problem that men can’t control their lust. Some men/women are bound by lust and just don’t want freedom — but then, there are others who do…
Truth is, we have limited power in others’ responses. God gave us our bodies. Some of us are curvy in certain areas and can’t help our shape. It really isn’t our fault! And, it’s not a bad thing that we are shaped the way we are — curvy or not.
However, all of us (as classy, godly women) have a duty to properly represent our Father, God.
Every outfit, whether we agree or not, can be an indication of the condition of our heart.
We should ask ourselves a few questions when we’re shopping and going out in public:
1. Am I dressing to be desired sexually?
2.How will people characterize me based on what I’m wearing?
3. Does this outfit properly reflect a woman of virtue?
4. Is my outfit respectable?
And of course, more questions could follow. These are just examples if you don’t know where to start.
2. The Bible tells us to not walk as the Gentiles (worldly) walk, who walk in the vanity of their mind, because their understanding is darkened. Their heart is blinded and they have given themselves over to lasciviousness to work all uncleanness with greediness. (Ephesians 4:17-19 Paraphrased).
Does this not sound familiar? We see it, everyday.
But Paul in the next few verses tell us to, “Put off concerning the former conversation (lifestyle) of the old man, which is corrupt according to the deceitful lusts; and to put on the NEW man, which after God is created in righteousness and TRUE holiness. (See Ephesians 4:22-24)
We live differently after coming in contact with Jesus — we don’t always get it right, but we press on.
Yes, we all want attention. We’re human. But we have to ask God to search our hearts and reveal to us the hidden motives. “Why do I wanted to be lusted after?”
“What am I dealing with that’s causing me to seek out this attention?”
“Is it rejection, hurt, fear…?”
We may discover something about ourselves that we never knew.
The intent of this post is not to condemn or shame any woman. This is a message of empowerment. To encourage women whose lives have been transformed by Jesus Christ to stand boldly and walk in truth — His truth — not our own. To bring glory to the Father and not ourselves by living in TRUE freedom. 💕
Living for God with a speck of class